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Will You Meet Me in the Field?
July 2, 2022

In response to last weeks’ blog, a friend, I’ll call her “Friend” sent me an email recounting a story about an interaction with a person whom we both know, I’ll call them “Person.” The whole thing keeps tugging at me.

The story goes that every time they happened upon one another, Person had a habit of greeting Friend with a label rather than her name. Friend found this demeaning and offensive to the point at which Friend approached Person saying she was offended by this greeting.

Person confided that this was a coping mechanism for not being able to remember names and Friend, who also struggles with name recall, came to a new understanding, putting aside her feelings of offense.

The story does not end there. Friend was surprised when I wrote back thanking her for the story and telling her I too had a similar experience with Person, but rather than addressing it, I had simply labeled Person as weird and avoided engaging.

The Tug

It made me wonder how many times I hadn’t taken the time to understand the motivation behind an act, missing an opportunity for empathy rather than writing someone off as weird. 

The story doesn’t end there. My reflection expanded to include so much of what is going on in our world . . . 

Wait. Allow me to stop right there. Even as I type the sentence, “as I look at so much of what is going on in our world . . .” I am aware that “what is going on” means something different to everyone. Each person’s values, upbringing, beliefs, and biases shape their interpretation of “what is going on.” Our physical and emotional inheritance is in play as well as socio-economic status, race, and religion and the list goes on and on. 

Instagram Wisdom

In a dear friend’s Instagram post this week, she writes in regard to the Roe v. Wade decision: “My heart is all over the place right now. One of the hardest things to understand is the lack of conversation among us all. So much hate. So much pure vitriol. So little willingness to listen. To hear. To be part of any type of dialogue about frustrations and heartbreak. Where do we go from here?” 

Here’s my two cents on Choice. As my friend says above, it’s time for us to listen to one another.  May I never judge another human being’s choices. May I step back and understand their circumstances. It is not fair for me, who grew up in a home with two supportive, loving parents, who has been married to two really good, supportive men, who has always lived in a safe, abundant environment to judge or dictate the choices of someone who may have never had any of those comforts.

My Hope

I will always have hope.

I hope I’m not being too optimistic in believing most people would agree labeling, discounting, refusing sane discourse, and a general lack of human compassion and compromise is a problem. Hate is a problem. As for me, I’ve been reflecting on my need to consider the why behind certain behaviors and beliefs before I label someone as weird or wrong. To allow others the grace to make their own decisions and hold their own beliefs. 

Rumi writes:

“Out beyond the ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” 

I guess what I’m saying is, Let’s find a field beyond labeling and vilifying the “other,” where honesty and kindness reign, where neither of us is attempting to silence and control the other based upon our own fears; I’d like to meet you there. 

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  1. Always willing to meet in the field …

    • Will be good to have you join us there!

  2. I look forward to your blogs.
    You help me to understand things from a different perspective. They bring me much joy.
    Thank you for being you.

    • Thank you for your kind words, Lea. And thanks for being here!

  3. I’ll meet you in that field, too!

    Thank you for sharing this quote from Rumi. It’s lovely and it gives me peace. It makes me pause and think about inviting others on that journey through.

    My brother worked with a guy named Herb, whose mantra was : “Some of my friends are for it; some of my friends are against it. I’m just for my friends.” Herb was definitely on to something …

    • So glad to have you join me in that field. Bring Herb with you!

  4. It makes me ponder the “Fields of Dreams” title. We are all living in our own field. I appreciate you inviting me to yours as you are likewise welcome to mine. I had a professional real estate picture taken years ago promoting my niche of selling land. I was standing in the corn stalks on grandpa’s farm and it said, “Outstanding in my field!” It was a way to invite people to see what I was doing, selling or growing in my field! Standing out there by myself certainly would have not achieved anything! Anyway, come on over, the crop is thriving!

    • Thanks for the invite. I’ll meet you there. And thanks for joining me here.

  5. I’ll meet you in the field! I think more empathy is a great true north.

    • For sure. Just a bit of empathy could help so much!


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Debi Dixon

Debi Dixon

The Universe is guiding me on an incredible adventure: my Plan B. I write here to share bits of my Odyssey, hopefully to inspire, encourage, or extend the virtual hand of friendship.

When I quit teaching in 2014, I could never have imagined the growth I would experience through travel, writing, reading, therapy, and introspection.

I believe human connection and compassion will go a long way toward our healing, and the best way to connect and feel compassion for one another is through the sharing of our stories.

Thank you for joining me here. I appreciate you and may we grow together.

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“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.”
~Joseph Campbell

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